How Do I Have a Low-Conflict Divorce?

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Yes, divorce proceedings are known for being complicated, but they do not necessarily have to be. Continue reading to learn how you and your spouse can have a low-conflict divorce and how one of the experienced New Jersey divorce attorneys at Haber Silver Simpson & Russoniello can help you.

How do I achieve a low-conflict divorce?

Put simply, the less conflict there is in your divorce proceedings, the better the outcome will be. Below is a list of ways in which this is achievable:

  • Have acceptance: divorce is hard, but it makes it easier if you learn to come to terms with it. With acceptance comes the alleviation of any resentment or denial you may be holding on to.
  • Have an open mind: you may want your settlement agreements to pan out in a certain way, but in the end, it is better if you are willing to compromise with your spouse. With flexibility comes less disappointment with the results and more willingness to reach a happy medium.
  • Have control of your emotions: you are valid in feeling heightened emotions during your divorce, so long as you refrain from acting on them. With impulsiveness comes barriers to reaching your goals. To best process your emotions, you should identify healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Have good communication: it is okay if you are not on the best of terms with your spouse, so long as you allow the opportunity for open communication. With this communication should come a neutral tone and a refrain from speaking with your emotions.
  • Have patience: it is okay to feel misunderstood and to not be on the same page with your spouse on a lot of terms. This is so long as you can trust the process and not let your frustration get the best of you.

What are the benefits of a low-conflict divorce?

For one, if you and your spouse share a child, a low-conflict divorce will allow them to better transition to this new dynamic. And if your child sees that you and your spouse still respect one another, that will just better the relationship they share with the two of you.

Overall, a low-conflict divorce likely means that you will spend less money on legal fees and less time battling in the courtroom setting. This will benefit you both emotionally and financially. Typically, a mediator is hired to help lessen the conflict during these times of negotiation.

For more advice, you should contact one of the skilled attorneys at our Morris County divorce & separation law firm today.

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